tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743786917000227745.post7998006259551914267..comments2023-09-28T08:42:32.255-07:00Comments on Falling For Me : Perfection...To Be or Not To Be?Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08416420835988834378noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743786917000227745.post-89364873729781995612014-05-12T06:31:45.324-07:002014-05-12T06:31:45.324-07:00LOL you kill me Beth but I am the same way. Walk...LOL you kill me Beth but I am the same way. Walking around in a perpetual state of "buzz" may help but I think I would still be picking up the crumbs and offering advice on how to do it properly. I need to find my zen and learn to let it go! :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08416420835988834378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743786917000227745.post-85520294840078419992014-05-08T11:50:52.462-07:002014-05-08T11:50:52.462-07:00The number one way to confirm whether or not you&#...The number one way to confirm whether or not you're a control freak is to cook with them. Good lord, I'm a pain in the ass! I think I'm going to be all fun and enjoy the experience, and next thing I know I'm picking every little crumb off the counter, calling out "don't make a mess!", and correcting their stirring. I should drink more, probably. I'm much less controlling when I'm buzzed. LOLAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743786917000227745.post-19839047071940771242014-05-07T05:58:11.427-07:002014-05-07T05:58:11.427-07:00Same thing happened to me! Imposing perfectionism...Same thing happened to me! Imposing perfectionism on our single selves doesn't seem to be as challenging since we only have one person to deal with. When I became a mom, it became increasingly difficult to let go of that. I started to let go over the past few months. My greatest discovery was I can only control the things that I DO, not my kids, parents, society, etc. It's getting much easier now :) Thanks for reading!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08416420835988834378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743786917000227745.post-67742322115278330102014-05-07T05:54:46.429-07:002014-05-07T05:54:46.429-07:00Amen! I read your blog and it's great! I am ...Amen! I read your blog and it's great! I am getting there and I want to teach my kids this lesson before the idea of perfectionism hits them in the face. Thanks!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08416420835988834378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743786917000227745.post-50573965367321442582014-05-07T05:52:58.750-07:002014-05-07T05:52:58.750-07:00I completely understand how difficult the process ...I completely understand how difficult the process is. I still struggle but am getting better and turning a blind eye to the pile of laundry and messy desk. We impose perfectionism on ourselves and when we finally give ourselves permission to just "be" life is better! Thanks for commenting!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08416420835988834378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743786917000227745.post-47915498992316980022014-05-07T05:51:02.319-07:002014-05-07T05:51:02.319-07:00Absolutely Carolyn! We need to know what our limit...Absolutely Carolyn! We need to know what our limitations are and accept them. Asking for help is always a challenge. For a long time I thought that this was a sign of weakness, of incapability and I had something to prove. I didn't want the pity of other people, I wanted to prove to them and more importantly, myself, that I could do everything. But lately, I am happier with being able to accomplish what I can in a 24 hour period and enjoying time with my kids. :)<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08416420835988834378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743786917000227745.post-792269679462137032014-05-07T05:46:56.398-07:002014-05-07T05:46:56.398-07:00Thanks for commenting. I think you are bang on. Ou...Thanks for commenting. I think you are bang on. Our view of perfection is definitely based in the context of looking at someone else being "perfect". The grass isn't always greener, that I have learned perhaps the hard way. But through my journey I am learning balance and that is what makes life easier and more enjoyable. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08416420835988834378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743786917000227745.post-17139490296612426912014-05-07T05:41:22.026-07:002014-05-07T05:41:22.026-07:00Love that Eckhart Tolle line also and I try to rem...Love that Eckhart Tolle line also and I try to remember it all the time. And I completely agree with the person who commented that we are doing what we choose. It is all about priortizing and doing what makes a difference. Yes, we do need to do the "not so fun" things but these shouldn't take over our life. Thanks for commenting! Gave me some more food for thought!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08416420835988834378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743786917000227745.post-9539854522305781422014-05-01T11:55:34.807-07:002014-05-01T11:55:34.807-07:00I really need to stop getting worked up over littl...I really need to stop getting worked up over little things - I never thought I was a perfectionist or a control freak until I had kids. Triplezmomhttp://www.triplezmom.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743786917000227745.post-1646698080234381142014-05-01T08:35:40.668-07:002014-05-01T08:35:40.668-07:00So true! I based the whole name of my blog around ...So true! I based the whole name of my blog around this idea that perfection is pending. It is. We'll never reach it, and we need to stop trying so hard to make it that way, and find peace with the effort. That's the hardest part for me. I get it. Meredithhttp://perfectionpending.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743786917000227745.post-63725924982445437662014-05-01T06:54:07.013-07:002014-05-01T06:54:07.013-07:00Ah, perfectionism. It taunts me, because I'm a...Ah, perfectionism. It taunts me, because I'm a perfectionist, but I rarely do anything perfectly. It's been a process, learning to let go of the perfectionism.Natalie DeYounghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16906680301422288990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743786917000227745.post-90494985679513008052014-05-01T06:21:27.832-07:002014-05-01T06:21:27.832-07:00To me a SuperMom is someone who wears many hats bu...To me a SuperMom is someone who wears many hats but knows when she needs to ask for help and when she needs to delegate and it is knowing when to say no, "I can not take on anymore right now". There is great power in knowing your limitations. I am a bit of a perfectionist myself but I have learned when someone is willing to help you it will probably not be done the way you would do it but that is okay. "Perfect" is a relative term and it was you choose to make it mean. When my daughter cleans her room and throws everything in the closet but it is all off the floor and her bed is straightened it is perfect for her and she did it herself. I should note she is only 51/2 years old. You are a SuperMom because you realized that doing your best is great and as we keeping trying we will only get better.Carolyn Dickinsonhttp://www.supermomentrepreneur.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743786917000227745.post-77296248958645537782014-05-01T05:56:22.836-07:002014-05-01T05:56:22.836-07:00not if the definition of "perfect" is: &...not if the definition of "perfect" is: "<em>...having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; as good as it is possible to be</em> which sounds like either: a) an imaginary person or 2) a person person, (fondly and/or pointedly remembered) I mean, where did you start? half perfect? 3/4's perfect? 1/8th perfect?? The obvious problem with absolutes is that they are 'infinite' and the (common) usage of absolutes as a club... (not saying anyone in particular, but how is it, that anytime we question ourselves on how perfect we are, it is in the context of someone else 'being perfect'.<br />clarkhttp://wakefielddoctrine.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4743786917000227745.post-43720158367257689132014-04-29T17:17:57.509-07:002014-04-29T17:17:57.509-07:00Good enough is, well, good enough! No one is super...Good enough is, well, good enough! No one is supermom and perfection is unattainable. I wrote a post earlier this week about trying to not be so busy, and the best comment someone left was that we should remember that we are doing what we chose... that we are abundant, not busy. For me, it's a matter of how I look at it. I love the line from Eckhart Tolle, "Whatever the present moment contains, embrace it as if you had chosen it." I know it sounds all wishy washy, but sometimes we need to embrace the suck and realize that there's not-so-fun things that need to be done, but we just do it and move on. And some things CAN be put off until tomorrow to save today's sanity :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06899550611941829240noreply@blogger.com